When intimacy does not satisfy, then integrity, dignity and honesty need to climb into bed with you. Because intimacy alone will not make you feel at home, safe and fulfilled. Only honesty will do that. Reciprocal honesty and truth – the soul of trust and integrity, the pillars of respect and dignity.

Stay with people that respect you enough to tell you always the truth,no matter what that truth is – those that honour you with their honesty. Honesty is an expression of trust and of respect, and of love.

But the heart, oh the heart is treacherous. It will go where it knows it’s not wanted, where it knows it’s not respected, where it knows it is not valued or respected, where it knows it is not really loved in return. For some strange reason the heart will long for the person that will abuse it, lie to it, break it and cause it pain. And no matter how much you try to hold the heart back from the path of punishment, it will insist and it will go there, like a masochist. And it will not be satisfied until it has been broken open.

Because the heart longs for nothing more than to be opened again. Open Sesame. To experience from the depth of its core. And to grow. The heart wants to live and to feel alive. And once it has been opened by pain, then it does not need the pain or the pain-makers anymore. All it wants now is joy and light and love. The heart wants to be happy, from deep within.

And when the Heart has found happiness, it shuns Lies and dishonesty henceforth, and desires only truthfulness and the company of those with whom it can share Honesty, because honesty is the purest form of intimacy.

Che Chidi Chukwumerije
Undulating Plains